An anorgasmia program with guided exercises at your own pace
Developed by Murat Yön, clinical psychologist and sex therapist
Orgasm difficulty means not reaching orgasm, or reaching it only with great effort, despite arousal; it is not a flaw. This program explores what your body responds to, without pressure.
First a free 3–4 minute assessment, then a plan ordered for you.
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If one of these sentences is yours
- "It feels close, then it disappears; in the end I say 'that was it' — it wasn't."
- "On my own it happens; with my partner it never has. Is something missing in me?"
- "I don't know what I respond to, and because I don't know, I can't say it."
Sentences we hear often; not user reviews.
What is inside
Orgasm difficulty has its own 5-session section; the 6-session sensory map section completes it. The assessment orders these two, and the rest of the 23-module program, for you.
Topics covered in this section
- Facts and myths
"At the same time", "from intercourse alone", "the same for everyone" — which of these the research does not support.
- Causes
Mental pressure, attention, insufficient stimulation, medication side effects, the climate of the relationship — which plays a part for you.
- Self-discovery map
Exploring, without judgment, what your body responds to and how; at your own pace.
- Breath, relaxation and letting go
Returning a goal-locked mind to the body; short practices.
- Together with a partner
How to say what you have discovered, and how to practice it together.
- Sensory map
Plain information on the body's language of pleasure, sensory intensification and helpful tools.
A sample exercise: exploring your body in four stages, with no goal
This is not an orgasm test. The aim is to notice what your body responds to, and how, rather than to chase pleasure. No partner is needed; go at your own pace in a warm room, door closed, phone silent.
- Begin with three slow breaths, lying down or sitting comfortably; there is nothing to achieve.
- Scan your body. Touch the hands, arms, neck, belly and thighs, noticing whether each area feels pleasant, neutral or unwanted.
- Change one thing at a time: only pressure, speed or rhythm, listening for "lighter", "slower" or "stop".
- Move to the genital area with the same curiosity, if you wish. If direct touch is too intense, start around it; non-genital touch alone is a complete exercise.
- Close with three notes: what felt pleasant, what felt neutral, what you do not want again. If orgasm happens, notice it; if not, nothing has failed.
Stop if there is pain, numbness, difficult memories or not wanting to go on. If pain or loss of sensation persists, or the difficulty began with a new medication or hormonal change, see a doctor; with a history of sexual trauma, doing this with a professional is safer. Pause whenever you feel pressure.
A shortened version of the app's “Discovery Map: Self-Exploration” session, from the Coping with Orgasm Difficulties module.
How it works
- Assessment (3–4 minutes, free)
When orgasm is your reason for coming, the assessment may cover how reaching orgasm works for you (never, alone but not with a partner, or it used to and no longer does), how well you know what your body responds to, and any recent change in health or medication. You see the result without an account and create one later only to keep it.
- A plan ordered for you
Foundation sessions always come first. In the example above, safe communication leads, the orgasm difficulties module is second and body awareness third; when orgasm difficulty is your priority, the module lands within the first three steps. An answer worth discussing with a doctor adds a reminder above the plan, which still opens.
- Information first, then exploration
The orgasm module opens with facts and myths, then causes; the self-exploration map is the third session, followed by breath and letting go, and then by sharing what you have learned with a partner. Progress is kept in your account and shared with no one; you pick up where you stopped, on your phone or in the browser.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is free, and what needs a subscription?
The assessment and the plan it produces cost nothing and need no account. Sessions, including the full version of the exploration exercise on this page, are part of a Sexual Wellness subscription, which covers this app only. You will find the current options on the pricing page.
Is this program for women?
For everyone. At the start of the assessment you choose questions for a female or a male body, and sessions are separated by body; the exploration exercise also describes a separate path for each anatomy. Delayed ejaculation in men is covered in the same section.
What if I feel nothing during the exercise?
That is expected, and it does not mean you are doing it wrong. The session says plainly that "nothing may happen" the first few times and suggests repeating it two or three times a week; how quickly change is noticed varies a great deal from person to person. The goal is not orgasm but touching your body safely and learning what feels how.
How much time does the module take?
The five sessions in the orgasm module run 8 to 12 minutes each. For the exploration exercise itself, the session suggests setting aside 20–30 minutes of uninterrupted privacy, two or three times a week.
Will anyone know what I answered?
No. Assessment answers and progress live only in your account and are not shared with anyone. The notes you write after the exercise are yours; what you tell a partner, and when, is your call. You can delete your account completely whenever you like.
Can I switch between my phone and the browser?
Yes. One Sexual Wellness account opens both the web app and the Sexual Wellness app from the App Store or Google Play, so you find the same orgasm module session in either place. It is separate from the Apple or Google account you use for the store.
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